I feel much better. Thank you nicki and nina for your kind advice. I typed that last entry up right after I heard the news and in the middle of having a sick baby and sick husband. Not the best time to deal with stress. It still bothers me that I can not find out whose reference they have, or don’t have. I’ll just have to deal with the information that I do have.
Instead of placing blame on anyone, I will be asking if they have a copy of what they sent to my agency to send back to them and if not to please write a new one and send it out (with delivery confirmation, please). Our friends know how important this is to us and I don’t doubt they told the truth and did send out our references. Something happened. I don’t know what, but at least I can ask them to help me turn it around.
Luckily, today Steven isn’t sick like yesterday. I sure hope Chloe isn’t sick for Christmas.