We had THE talk last night. About the Viet Nam program, the stability, any possibility of us not completing this adoption and what we would do. We haven’t given up, we just need to discuss options. I know that the agencies issued the NOIDs so far haven’t been agencies that are considered ethical by most. I don’t necessarily think that this means that we’re out of trouble just because it isn’t our agency. I wonder if 3 or however many more bad apples can really ruin it for the rest of us. And if my agency were ever issued a NOID – I’d be out. I couldn’t do it, and I don’t know if I would have it in me to continue with another agency. I hate to say that. I believe the NOIDs are good – as in, good for the children that could potentially have lost out on their birth family that should be raising them. But the more NOIDs that get issued the more I wonder about the Viet Nam adoption program as a whole.
It’s hard. I love the idea of Viet Nam. My mom grew up there. I still have family there. I have emotional ties because of my family. I like that.
Our first thought is China. That means we would have to wait until I turn 30, and quite frankly we probably wouldn’t bring a child home until Chloe was over the age of 7 or 8. While I am fine with waiting – I’m sorry, that’s a long time to wait. Now that I am more open to the idea of an open adoption I feel we could be open to adopting in the US. But that’s a whole other can of worms.
I don’t know at this point. It is something I have to think about. For now, like everyone else, I’m just watching and waiting.