ETA more appropriate terms.
I am almost done with writing our Dear Expectant Mother letter. I should be done this week. I have about 5 of 7 sections done. I’ve been writing it for a couple of weeks now, and you would think that means that I have pages and pages of wonderful stuff written about us. Not exactly. It mostly means that I have spent many days just staring at the computer, feeling completely overwhelmed. This, however, is just the first draft. I have heard that we will go through many drafts back and forth with our coordinator to make sure it’s perfect and exactly what we want. Right now I have a little over a page long document. In the end it will be two pages long (with a much prettier font), including pictures.
This is the hardest thing I have ever had to write. This is the first glimpse the expectant mother will ever see of us as she’s choosing a family for her child – talk about pressure. It is very intimidating to write because I put so much pressure on myself for it to be a full representation of us and our life. How do I put us into words and pictures? You would think the pictures would be easier, but I get the feeling I’m going to go just as nuts over picking those.
Our agency has told us not to worry and to just be ourselves in our letter, that there will be an expectant mother out there that will love our family. It sounds easy enough. I thought I would have this letter finished in a week. But no. I was just a little too optimistic about that one. Now I’ll be happy if I have the final draft of the letter completed before the end of February since I’ll be turning in the very first draft this week.
I have to say though, one of the things that always intimidated us was the “being choosen” part. We’re not fun, out-going, all-American type of people. We’re a Buddhist, multi-cultural family, who spends most of our time either at home, out eating Vietnamese food, or at Disneyland. In fact, I remember a couple of months ago when we were still deciding, looking over all the other families on our agencies web site and feeling so weirded out because there were a lot of pictures of families doing things like kayaking. We are so not a kayaking family. We’re more of a Wii bowling family. So hopefully there will be an expectant mother who likes video games more than, well, kayaking. 🙂
On the other hand, while the actual decision to adopt wasn’t a hard one, as our child’s future Firstmom is reading these letters it’s going to be a life changing decision. It puts it into perspective a bit. Her decision is much more complex than mine. I believe that’s also why the introduction is one of the sections I haven’t finished writing. I am just at a loss as what to say. I don’t want it to sound fake or forced. It should be very natural and nice.
So, my most optimistic timeline is that we’ll officially be “in the books” by late February (really optimistic) or early March. Most of that time will be spent editing the letter, designing the letter, designing the web site, and printing the letter. When all that is completed is when our profile will start to be officially shown to expectant mothers considering adoption. After that, it’s all a waiting game. Waiting for an expectant mother to find that perfect family for her child, and having that family be us.